I read this article by Business Insider that was called, “9 of the most successful people share their reading habits” and, spoiler alert, they all read. A lot. I don’t mean a book here and there, I mean a few hours a day, one book a week at least, I am talking about some hard core reading habits. What are they probably not doing? Spending their time on social media if I had to take a wild guess.

I got to thinking and I love to read. I mean really, when I get into a series I will finish a book a day. It becomes addictive for me in the way that I get nothing else done that day and no sleep that night because I’m so preoccupied. Why don’t I read more? Why do I waste my day mindlessly scrolling on social media (when I actually have the apps – I try to keep them deleted). That is it! I am going to choose a list of books and I am going to read and apply them to my life… and then I’m going to watch the change that comes from it. Especially during this period of a pandemic where a lot of us spend most of our time, by choice or not, inside. Now is the perfect time to pick out some good reads and spend some time learning about new thoughts, ideas, technologies, cultures, politics – the topics of books around us are endless!

So here you have it, here are my top 5 books that made the cut as my ‘must read self-help’ book by 2021.

1. How to Win Friends & Influence People, by Dale Carnegie


This book is proper old to us young folks. It was first published in 1936 by Dale Carnegie, an American writer, lecturer, and developer of courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking and interpersonal skills.

The book is broken down into four parts that discuss different principles for the following:

Part I – Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Part II – Ways to Make People like You

Part III – How to Win People to your Way of Thinking

Part IV – How to Change People without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment

This book was a book that kind of challenged humans by nature. It discusses actively fighting a lot of natural instincts that others can’t beat, and with that, winning friends and you guessed it… influencing people.

I’m a really visual learner so I took the meaningful lessons and quotes from this book and turned them into graphics, you can check them out below.


2. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen Covey

I am currently in the process of reading this one! I will admit, I don’t prefer it as much as How to Win Friends & Influence People, but that’s what is so fun about reading so many different books. You find what types of books you like, what author style speaks to you the most, where your interest lies, what self-help you’re really looking for, and so on and so forth.

Stephen Covey was an American educator, author, businessman, and keynote speaker. First published in 1989, this self-help book presents an approach to being effective in attaining goals by aligning oneself to the principles he presents based on a character ethic. I’m not too far into it yet so I can’t elaborate but once done I will definitely come back and make an edit here on my final thoughts and any graphics I create.


3. The 80/20 Principle, by Richard Koch

The 80/20 Principle asserts that a minority of causes, inputs, or effort usually lead to a majority of the results, outputs, or rewards. “The 80/20 rule, also known as the Pareto Principle, is an aphorism which asserts that 80% of outcomes (or outputs) result from 20% of all causes (or inputs) for any given event. In business, a goal of the 80/20 rule is to identify inputs that are potentially the most productive and make them the priority.”

Richard Koch, a British management consultant, venture capital investor and author of books on management, marketing and lifestyle, first published this book in 1997.


4. How to Help your Husband Get Ahead in his Social and Business Life, by Dorothy Carnegie

The last name might look familiar, and for good reason! Wife of Dale Carnegie, Dorothy first published this book in 1953. I’m probably not too much different from the average wife in the sense that I want to help my husband get ahead, but am not always sure exactly how to go about it.

Marriage is tricky, relationships in general are tricky – whether romantic or platonic! Still new in our relationship (4 years isn’t long at all when you hope to have a whole life ahead of you), I’m really hoping to discover and adapt a new perspective from reading this novel. I’m hoping to read it and think, “Wow, I have never thought of it like that before…”

The best books are the ones that make you go outside of your own box and take on new perspectives from the opposite party. Those are the ones I enjoy the most.


5. The Power of Habit, by Charles Duhigg

Charles Duhigg is a Pulitzer-prize winning American journalist and non-fiction author. Published in 2012, The Power of Habit discusses the science of habit formation in our lives, companies and societies.

This book caught my eye and made the list because a lot of the reviews discuss how sharp, useful, easy to read, intelligent and to the point, and proactive the book is. With a description like that, how could you not be drawn in.



We’ll see how it goes but so far I’m starting off strong and feeling motivated to grow my self, and therefore my life, in the best possible way. I would love any book recommendations from books that changed your life, or even that you haven’t read but have heard great things about! My fellow bookworms, let’s do this!